Finding Your Sparkle: How to Shine When Hosting at Home

imageYears ago, when my hostessing merely twinkled and had not yet developed into a full on sparkle, I read an article on entertaining in one of my favorite lifestyle magazines. I’m sure it was full to the brim with helpful tips and tricks, but the one that has stuck with me was a reminder to leave time in the planning and preparation for an event to pull yourself together. The article cautioned budding hosts and hostesses that guests didn’t want to arrive to a stressed and disheveled host unable to greet them and issued a firm reminder that people are there, first and foremost, for their host.

Armed with this sage wisdom and a deep love of entertaining, I set out to dazzle friends and family at dinners, barbeques, brunches and holidays.  imageAny gathering was a chance for an occasion.  imageA girl’s night in was a chance to try out sangria and martini recipes.  A jewelry party was an opportunity for themed door prizes and fondue bars.  A barbeque was not a imagejust barbeque…it was a red gingham themed picnic, a luau or a Rutgers football rally.  Slowly but surely, I found my own hostessing style and developed my philosophy of generous hospitality and creative theming.  I also learned the value of setting a few hours aside before the guests were set to arrive to clean up, change and make myself feel like a participant in the party.  That doesn’t mean that I sweep aside the hard work of hosting the minute my guests began to arrive.  What it does mean is that I strive for my guests to find me dressed and ready to greet them as I pull  together any finishing touches and set about making them feel at home.

When it comes to developing your own entertaining skills, remember that as the host you set the tone for every event you hold.  A big part of that tone is, of course, the planning and preparation that occurs before the party.  The organization, décor, entertainment and menu are critical components in creating an enjoyable event for your guests.  However, as I mentioned at the end of The Dazzle is in The Details, a happy host is the most important décor a party can have.

The ultimate goal of hosting is to ensure your guests feel engaged in the event and well attended to.  gardenlemonadestand-25That means planning a gathering that you can be a proper host to.    If you’re inexperienced with entertaining or uncomfortable in the kitchen, the most elegant approach to take is to simplify.  imagePrepare a straightforward plan for your affair and create a layout and timeline for putting it into action.  Find a basic color palate that can be easily coordinated. Choose appetizers that can be laid out in advance that combine style, substance and simplicity.  Think of elegant antipasto, charcuterie & crudité platters.   Cater your main courses or rely on tried and true recipes you feel comfortable with. A selection of wine and seasonal beer are appropriate for any occasion and won’t require your attention at the bar.  If you want to add some visual and palate pleasing pizazz you can plan a simple build your own food bar or beverage bar to engage your guests. Once you’ve set a simple and stunning stage, focus on being present and attentive to your guests.

As you develop a comfort level, you may start to plan more elaborate events.  However, throwing large and intricate parties isn’t for everyone.  You may choose to stick with a simple hosting style on your own and to call in a professional when the planning and coordination get beyond you.  No matter which path you choose, a dazzling at home affair is never unattainable as long as you remember that you are the sparkle that lets your event shine.

Raising the Bar II: Beverages

 

imageWhen I was young my parents would buy a bottle of sparkling cider on New Year’s Eve so that my brother and I could have a celebratory toast right along with the adults.  As you might expect from a sparkling hostess, as an adult I still enjoy a little sparkle in my beverages.  Something about dressing a drink up a bit brings a sense of occasion along with it.  The benefit of a lovely beverage bar with anything from water to champagne is that it lets everyone feel a little fancy without leaving behind the fun.

Let’s start with the basics.  Every host has water on hand for their guests.  Its rarely treated as a central theme or a focal point, but it’s certainly a necessity.  Rather than relying on a tub full of water bottles, you can make even still water sparkle by serving it at a beverage bar.  Set up dispensers or jugs of ice water infused with a variety of different fruits and herbs.  imageFrom the obvious lemons and limes to mint leaves and strawberries, you can be as creative as you wish.  As an added bonus, many of the fruits and garnishes are going to make your guest’s water not just prettier and tastier, but healthier as well.  You can modify this idea by serving bottles of different sparkling and mineral waters along with fruits and herbs for guests to add themselves.

Another refreshing way to please adults and child guests alike are lemonade and iced tea bars.  Start with a few varieties of each beverage.  Think lemonade, pink lemonade and blueberry lemonade or iced sweet tea, oolong tea and green tea.  You can add herbs and fruit into the pitchers or leave them out for guests to choose themselves.  Accompaniments to consider are honey, lemon, lime, berries and mint.

imageAt a brunch or afternoon event Mimosa and Bloody Mary bars are popular options.  For your mimosa bar you start, of course, with sparkling wine.  Consider choosing a few different sweetness levels (i.e. brut, extra brut, dry).  Display them along side a variety of mixers including juices and liqueurs.  Orange juice, pomegranate juice, St. Germaine liqueur and Limoncello liqueur are some of my favorites.  Finish off your presentation with a berries and fruit slices for garnish.

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A Bloody Mary is a classic drink, but that doesn’t mean  you can’t spice it up a bit with a bar.  Choose a few different vodkas to start, considering something exotic like a hot pepper infused variety.  Accompany your vodka options with pitchers of bloody mary mix, either purchased or homemade.  Finish off your bar with fixings such as hot sauce, horseradish, olives, lemons, celery and even bacon.  You can add dishes of salts or spices, Old Bay is a favorite of mine, for the rims of glasses.  Don’t forget to include drink skewers for guests to attractively display their garnish.

For an evening twist, set up a martini bar or a martini/mimosa bar combo.   Include gin, vodka, vermouth and liqueurs such as Chambord along with juices like cranberry and pineapple.  imageExpand your mimosa bar garnishes to include different types of olives, cocktail onions, limes and cucumbers.  For an extra touch offer guests individual cocktail shakers and display some simple drink recipes to guide them and encourage them to play mixologist.

For those cold winter nights and holiday parties you can warm up your dessert course with a hot chocolate bar.  Engage your young guests by offering a variety of marshmallows, whipped cream, caramel, sprinkles and  peppermint sticks.  For the adults you can include peppermint schnapps and whipped cream vodka.  This can easily be expanded into a coffee bar with flavored creamers and a variety of liqueurs.

Coffee and hot chocolate aren’t the only way to make your dessert course dazzling with a bar, so stay tuned for the next installment of Raising the Bar: Sweets.  Until then remember that food and beverage bars are about engaging your guests and bringing a touch of whimsy to you event.  Use your creativity, be adventurous in serving and flavor choices and remember…no matter what you do, always bring your sparkle.

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Generous Hospitality

I wasn’t born a sparkling hostess. No one is. Hosting events was bred into me over a childhood filled with loved ones gathering at my parents’ home. Halloween and Christmas Eve were punctuated with friends stopping by to celebrate over a large pot of my mom’s famous homemade soup. Summers were filled with sunny afternoons of my brother’s and my friends splashing in the pool as my dad barbequed on the grill and my mom boiled corn on the cob. On Fridays we made homemade pizza and watched movies. Whether it was just the four of us sitting around the table or fifty people scattered about the house there was a sense of fullness brought about by food, drink, laughter, and love.

Throughout my life my mother has instilled in me a sense of generous hospitality. She cooks and serves as lavishly as she loves. If I walked into her house right this minute unannounced there would be a plate of snacks in front of me and a glass of wine in my hand before I could settle into a chair. If you’re invited over for a “small casual” family birthday dinner there will be party favors and decorations, trays of appetizers and multiple courses at the meal.

As I grew into a hostess in my own right I carried these traditions with me. I embraced my mother’s welcoming attitude towards company and her festive attitude towards life. I think a girls night in or an intimate dinner at home can be just as much of an affair to remember as hosting thirty people for Thanksgiving or seventy people for a garden party. I believe in celebrating occasions and making even the smallest event a special one. I relish weaving a theme through the food, drinks, décor, and entertainment of a party.

Here at the Sparkling Hostess blog I’ll share information about parties and holidays I’ve hosted, events & creations by A Sparkling Affair and share tips & tricks for planning everything from the smallest to the grandest gathering. Grab your champagne flute, follow along and remember no matter what you’re doing…always bring your sparkle.