Years ago, when my hostessing merely twinkled and had not yet developed into a full on sparkle, I read an article on entertaining in one of my favorite lifestyle magazines. I’m sure it was full to the brim with helpful tips and tricks, but the one that has stuck with me was a reminder to leave time in the planning and preparation for an event to pull yourself together. The article cautioned budding hosts and hostesses that guests didn’t want to arrive to a stressed and disheveled host unable to greet them and issued a firm reminder that people are there, first and foremost, for their host.
Armed with this sage wisdom and a deep love of entertaining, I set out to dazzle friends and family at dinners, barbeques, brunches and holidays. 
Any gathering was a chance for an occasion. 
A girl’s night in was a chance to try out sangria and martini recipes. A jewelry party was an opportunity for themed door prizes and fondue bars. A barbeque was not a 
just barbeque…it was a red gingham themed picnic, a luau or a Rutgers football rally. Slowly but surely, I found my own hostessing style and developed my philosophy of generous hospitality and creative theming. I also learned the value of setting a few hours aside before the guests were set to arrive to clean up, change and make myself feel like a participant in the party. That doesn’t mean that I sweep aside the hard work of hosting the minute my guests began to arrive. What it does mean is that I strive for my guests to find me dressed and ready to greet them as I pull together any finishing touches and set about making them feel at home.
When it comes to developing your own entertaining skills, remember that as the host you set the tone for every event you hold. A big part of that tone is, of course, the planning and preparation that occurs before the party. The organization, décor, entertainment and menu are critical components in creating an enjoyable event for your guests. However, as I mentioned at the end of The Dazzle is in The Details, a happy host is the most important décor a party can have.
The ultimate goal of hosting is to ensure your guests feel engaged in the event and well attended to. 
That means planning a gathering that you can be a proper host to. If you’re inexperienced with entertaining or uncomfortable in the kitchen, the most elegant approach to take is to simplify. 
Prepare a straightforward plan for your affair and create a layout and timeline for putting it into action. Find a basic color palate that can be easily coordinated. Choose appetizers that can be laid out in advance that combine style, substance and simplicity. Think of elegant antipasto, charcuterie & crudité platters. Cater your main courses or rely on tried and true recipes you feel comfortable with. A selection of wine and seasonal beer are appropriate for any occasion and won’t require your attention at the bar. If you want to add some visual and palate pleasing pizazz you can plan a simple build your own food bar or beverage bar to engage your guests. Once you’ve set a simple and stunning stage, focus on being present and attentive to your guests.
As you develop a comfort level, you may start to plan more elaborate events. However, throwing large and intricate parties isn’t for everyone. You may choose to stick with a simple hosting style on your own and to call in a professional when the planning and coordination get beyond you. No matter which path you choose, a dazzling at home affair is never unattainable as long as you remember that you are the sparkle that lets your event shine.
If you sit down to have tea or coffee at my mom’s house the milk will be served in a small pitcher. It’s not because she’s one to stand on ceremony, many a Chinese take out dinner were eaten sitting around the large coffee table in the living room when I was young, but she just can’t abide a carton of milk on the table. Well, as my sister in law likes to say, “ducks don’t have chickens”. I now have my own lovely assortment of pitchers and carafes and serving pieces that adorn the table when I have guests. The details of a table, like a charming milk jug or dainty cups & saucers, might not be noticed by every guest specifically but they will combine to create an overall impression.
birthday party. The host wanted a theme which harkened back to the 60s. After tossing around a few ideas they settled on a Rat Pack theme. What says Rat Pack and gives a party a fun entertainment theme more than Vegas? The first thing we did was choose an invitation. We found a fantastic black, white and gold invitation that featured touches of red, dice and poker chips. From there I designed a Rat Pack Vegas party with a black, white and gold color scheme with touches of red.
aspect of the party together. The centerpieces were composed of martini glasses filled with black and white dice and poker chips along with a metallic gold hand of cards. The glasses sat atop vinyl records from the 1960s and out of the center floated balloon bouquets with black, white and gold balloons and a balloon of either hearts, spades, clubs or diamonds. The hands of cards corresponded to the card suit of the balloons and the placecards matched them. The tables were finished with black bow tie napkins, Rat Pack signature cocktail menus and custom gold table confetti. The theme was carried throughout the room with authentic black jack and roulette tables, vintage black and white photographs and a variety of
other details.
A Sparkling Affair Events 